The feeling of love can now be traced to chemicals and hormones
Have you experienced it? Call it love at first sight, call it infatuation, but regardless of what we call it, it’s a powerful feeling.
Sometimes we’re just going about our days, not paying much attention to the world outside our heads, when we meet someone that upends our reality.
It can happen in other ways, too. Sometimes it’s someone we’ve known for a while. …
Try making the hard choice when it comes to this common relationship struggle
Ahh, the friend zone. How we love to hate you. If you’ve found yourself in the friend zone at any point in your life, then this article is for you.
You know the drill. You meet someone you’re interested in, go on a date or two (or maybe just hang out), and just when things might take a turn towards being a little more serious, they say they just want to be friends.
Immediately after you hear the words “I just want to be friends,” you sense a sinking feeling in your stomach. Despite the spiral of disappointment and confusion you’re now trapped in, you retain composure. …
Learning to live with the internal struggle of unrequited feelings
Eventually the feelings go away. Sometimes it takes weeks, months, or even years, but one day you’ll wake up and realize you’re not thinking about that person you once obsessed over.
That’s what you tell yourself, anyway. Staring at the ceiling at 3 in the morning, though, it can be hard to believe that’s true. These feeling seem omnipresent, like they’ve taken over your whole life.
As they say, time heals all wounds, or at least glosses over them. Over weeks and months, the thoughts of that other person eventually take a backstage in your life. The chemicals that flooded your brain with pleasure at the thought of them start to have less effect on your brain, and you start to consider other people as romantic interests. …
This is the time to let go of those things that aren’t serving us
Yeah, I know “letting go” is written about so much on Medium it’s practically burned in our retinas by now. If you find yourself scrolling through the self-help section of Medium, this might be just the kind of article you’d end up at.
In fact, I’ve written about the concept of “letting go” a few times already, so why am I writing about it again?
Because this time I want to talk about the specific things we can let go of this year. Instead of vaguely talking about why we should let go, or how we can let go, this article is going to be a list of some parts of life that we can actively let go of. …
Ahh… regret, how did I end up in your grips again? I promised myself it would never happen again, but here we are, regrettably regretting something.
You might find yourself thinking this very thing at some points in your life. That’s because regret isn’t something you can plan on avoiding. It just shows up all of sudden, screaming in your head, like some nagging relative that won’t go away.
Regret is a strange emotion, and a particularly human one. It takes the capacity to understand that the past was changeable if you had made different decisions, and allows you to comprehend how you wished you had actually done that one thing that you didn’t do. …
People tend go to extremes and forget that health is a consistent practice
“I’m giving up vaping for good,” she tells me. I nod my head while I chuckle to myself. I kind of feel bad for laughing at this, but once you’ve heard someone tell you that a handful of times with little to no conviction to actually change it, it starts to feel like a worn-out charade.
The pattern goes like this: They “give up” vaping in the morning, do yoga for an hour, then try to eat a healthy lunch. …
Some claim that romantic love can now be measured by brain scans
The image above you comes from a Daily Mail article that made this claim:
Brain experts say they can tell what stage of romance someone is at by looking at MRI results
This article described how scientists have analyzed various brain scans of people in different stages of love. After enough analysis, these researchers believe they have found certain areas that are active during different stages of love.
I’ve provided these images at the top of the article. In them you can see the different areas of the brain that light up depending on that person’s experience with love. …
We all have opinions and ideas about how to live life the right way. How to save more money, or find the right partner, or to get the house, the car, the lifestyle you want.
Sometimes it seems there are a million other things that you’re not doing “right.”
Don’t get me wrong, understanding your wants and needs can be important. I’m not saying you shouldn’t try to improve yourself, work harder, and really go after something.
What I am saying is that no matter where you are, you can practice one thing to make your life better. This is something you’re already aware of, something that can make you feel good no matter what kind of life you have. …
Are you caught up in all the stress and flurry of the season? I know I get a little too anxious about family issues and work stress this time of year, which can often cause me to lose hold on my peace of mind.
In this situation, I always have to remind myself to take a second to just breathe and relax.
When it comes to being “mindful” and curating a calm and resilient self among the chaos of the world, having a technique you can rely on can be infinitely helpful.
Without knowing what to do in a stressful or anxious situation, we might find ourselves engaging in self-destructive thoughts or patterns. Before we know it, we are knee deep in anger or resentment with no way to reclaim our peace of mind. …